This week is all about flexing our muscles when we battle time*. We have recently met with our friend, “Daylight Savings Time”. Well, friend to some, enemy to my students. They loathe changing the clock to “Spring Forward” because they “lose an hour” of sleep. My students don’t actually change their clocks (because they don’t really have them) their cell phones change automatically. I remind them on a Friday that time changes over the weekend (and they are stunned – every year!). And by Monday, some of them are still clueless and show up late. I can only ask myself,
“What is our relationship like with time?”
I met with three clients this week and each of them called out not having enough time to do the things they needed and wanted to do. Time was talked about as if it was a partner or friend that they were in bad relationships with and they had no way to end it. I immediately had to shift the session and talk about relationships with time and how we communicate about time.
How do we talk about time?
“Kill Time” “Waste Time” “Borrow Time” “Lose Time” “Juggle Time”
“Gain Time” “Need Time” “Battle Time” “Saving Time” “Manage Time”
As I worked with my clients, I asked them all, “What is their relationship like with time?” “How do they talk about that relationship?” I wasn’t surprised to hear that there was nothing positive to say about time. In fact, the things I heard were disturbing. Nothing that was said pointed to a loving, caring, and happy relationship with time. In fact, most of what was said suggested the need to destroy and conquer time. I had to know, if they spoke about any other relationship they had in this manner – after some time thinking, they said NO! So I asked, why don’t you break up with time?
Can we end our relationship with time?
I suggested to my clients to either “Spring Forward” or “Fall Backwards” in their relationship with time. Imagine either getting to the point in your relationship where ease it the driving force – think “retirement and time”. Or remember what your relationship with time was like before it turned bad – think “I don’t know how to tell time yet”. When they allowed themselves to change the way they thought about time, they immediately began to change the way the felt about time. Nothing magical happened in the sense that we created more time for them, however, when we viewed time as a relationship, the entire perspective changed. As with all of our relationships, we choose how we will participate in them – time is not an exception! Time will be a factor in lives, and we have more control than we think!
Time doesn’t need to be killed, managed, juggled, battled, wasted, or saved. We need to love, nurture, and respect our life partner… Time! We can make the relationship anything we want it to be…Why not make it positive?
One last question….Is time even Real???Open Soul Communication Effective Communication for Effective Relationships “98% of Success is Support…I’ve got your back!” -DE ©